Un Couteau Dans Le Coeur

I watched a movie this weekend – French, 2018 – about a serial killer that would target Gay people who appeared in cheap pornos. Badly acted, filled with absolutely forgettable characters (both the actual movie and the movie within the movie), it did offer one good insight.

When the leading lady fails to seduce the film editor, Lois, she screams at her from the top of her badly-acted voice, that she loves her and has done so for quite some many years.

I’ve loved you this hard for 10 years.
I never thought I could love this hard, this long.
This love is too much for me.
It’s too powerful.
I’m terrified of losing you. It’s driving me insane!
You can’t refuse a love like this.
It’s criminal.
You must love me.
Love me.
Love me, love me!

So I started thinking. Why do some people think they’re entitled to another person’s love and affection just because they think it’s deserved? Love goes both ways, so does attraction, and when one side is coming on too strong, you have psychopathic behaviour forming. Stalking. Love bombing. Manipulation and threats from either harming someone else or their own self.

Yes, it’s painful if you’re the one who’s actually loving. Yes, it’s frustrating. But take it from the other side’s point of view. It’s not their fault if they don’t reciprocate the feelings. It’s hard – but you have to move on. Find things to do with your family and friends. Block them – out of sight, out of mind. Don’t push it or they will pull away.

“Love is something which should find you, instead of you searching for it.” The more you search, the more it gets delayed.

Rejection is never easy but knowing how to limit the psychological damage it inflicts, and how to rebuild your self-esteem when it happens, will help you recover sooner and move on with confidence when it is time for your next date or social event.

Unfortunately, the greatest damage rejection causes is usually self-inflicted. Indeed, our natural response to being dumped by a dating partner or getting picked last for a team is not just to lick our wounds but to become intensely self-critical. We call ourselves names, lament our shortcomings, and feel disgusted with ourselves. In other words, just when our self-esteem is hurting most, we go and damage it even further. Doing so is emotionally unhealthy and psychologically self-destructive yet every single one of us has done it at one time or another.

When scientists placed people in functional MRI machines and asked them to recall a recent rejection, they discovered something amazing. The same areas of our brain become activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain. That’s why even small rejections hurt more than we think they should, because they elicit literal (albeit, emotional) pain.

What do you think? Ever loved or been loved and not have your feelings reciprocated?

1917 or the story of Sam and Frodo retold

For anyone who’s a fan of Lord of the Rings, it is known that the story was mostly inspired by Tolkien’s days in the war. Lord of the Rings tells a tale that the strong friendships become stronger in the face of adversity and can last a life time. That delivering important items can sometimes make the difference between life and death. And that doing your duty is honour above all.

And when I finally went to see the movie who snatched Best Picture at the Golden Globes, I was absolutely in awe. The movie is wonderfully shot, with panning views that show both the beauty of the French countryside as well as the death and destruction that comes from the ongoing war. And I could not help myself from thinking that Lance Corporal Blake and Lance Corporal Schofield were like Sam and Frodo, sent into the wilderness and dangers of Mordor to deliver another Ring.


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“I am” – Scene from Penny Dreadful.

I thoroughly miss this show and I wish it would have continued past the three very amazing seasons!

VANESSA: “Mr. Clare.”
“Miss Ives.”
“Do you know you share your name with a dead poet?”
“Do you like poetry?”
“All sad people like poetry. Happy people like songs.”


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“Us” – or WTF did I just watch during weekly horror movie night?

Having seen Jordan Peele’s “Get Out”, I was expecting another amazing thriller filled with a good twist, loads of humour and a good scare. What I got instead was an artsy attempt filled with too many rabbits and overlay chorus.

This review contains spoilers so if you want to watch the movie, don’t read on.

The Wilsons’ doppelgängers first appear on their driveway in the same order as the stick family decal on the back of their car.

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“Mary Queen of Scots” and “Second Act” – Strong Women Return

I have been to the movies once more and I’ve been lucky (or unlucky based on standpoint) to watch two looong movies about strong women trying to make it in the world of misogynistic men. I kinda liked both of them but I could not help but think that “Mary Queen of Scots” was a movie that attempted to tick as many of the PC culture tickboxes as it could and “Second Act” was “Maid in Manhattan” but with a different storyline.

Mary Queen Of Scots


The movie aesthetic was gorgeous. Good colours (reds mostly for Elizabeth to match her hair and blues for Mary), sweeping shots of Scotland from above, loads of cold-looking palaces and medieval dresses.
The two actresses really pull of their weight and the underlying story is carried out to perfection. In a world of men, a woman must be strong enough to find a mate that won’t rule her or try to take what she has. Good plot point – carries from both ends of England.
Elizabeth is unwilling to marry and pick a husband – with her words, she wants to be a man and rule England like a man – ruthless and with a cool head on her shoulders. Unfortunately, the movie makes her look weak in most points where she is shown, fawning over Dudley, crying at his feet, meeting Mary (this never happened in real life) and then crying when she couldn’t offer her an army to take over Scotland and what really got me was those scenes where Elizabeth looked like she yearned to be a mother and had all these displays of pretend-pregnancy in the stables.


Mary – on the other hand – went through the same plights. Trying to find a husband in a tense political environment, making powerful men her enemies by refusing to bend to their will and after finding out her husband was gay, she uses him to make a child (there are two scenes of brutal domestic rape scenes so if you’re weak of heart, don’t watch this movie).
I know what the producer wanted to show: Mary, from an independent soul became a puppet in the world of men, losing most of her power after getting married and her consort prince wanting to be called king..

What I didn’t like about the movie

  1. Liberal agenda: everybody is made to feel welcome and accepted
  2. The movie is historical inaccurate: noblemen of colour were an unheard-of thing in the 1500s. So were Asian ladies-in-waiting
  3. Mary Queen of Scots would not have spoken English, as lowland Scotland spoke ‘Scots’ and Highland Scots spoke ‘Scottish Gaelic. Additionally, she would not have had a Scottish accent, as her mother, Mary of Guise, was French. Queen Mary also lived in France from the time she was five until she was eighteen. She likely spoke with a French accent.
  4. The gay husband subplot and the brutal murder of the troubadour for being gay/assumed lover of the queen
  5. The story seems to be told mostly from the perspective of Mary Queen of Scots and her plight to rule her kingdom when there was another, more powerful queen down-south. The story would have been a lot better told from the perspective of Elizabeth and how she viewed her rival up North.
  6. There is a lot of mysoginistic talk and the crap part was that some of the male members of the audience actually chuckled and laughed at John Knox’s line:

    John Knox: We have a scourge upon our land. Tis a woman with a crown.

    Ummm, do you agree with this dude? But hey, that’s one of my pet peeves.

  7. John Knox, Minister within the Church of Scotland, is portrayed periodically throughout the film as a vocal opponent of Queen Mary, even sitting in her privy council early in the film. Historically he had no presence in Mary’s court, and never had any official position within her government, as the Church of Scotland became formally independent from the Scottish Crown a generation prior, under the reign of James V.
  8. Last thing that really disturbed me was the fake meeting between Mary and Elizabeth where Mary comes to ask for help and then is being rude when help is refused.

    Mary Stuart: Do not play into their hands. Our hatred is precisely what they hope for. I know your heart has more within it than the men who counsel you.
    Queen Elizabeth I: You would do well to watch your words!
    Mary Stuart: I will not be scolded by my inferior!
    Queen Elizabeth I: Your inferior?

    I mean, if I wanted help from someone, I wouldn’t go and call them My Inferior! That’s a sure-way to get refused and any future requests shut down.

That’s about it! The movie was good though and I thoroughly recommend it!

Second Act

J Lo is back in the game! Same strong woman, working in a supermarket, can’t get a promotion when a position opens as they bring in a manager with skills and a degree from Duke. She then complains to her best friend that street smarts should equal book smarts and then her best friend’s son makes her a fake CV with a fake identity that lands her an interview at a massive corporation.

So – I have nothing against people trying to better themselves but literally lying on their CVs (I can’t believe she never even asked to see it after it was posted) and then saying that a degree means nothing kinda devalues all the people who have worked for their degree and puts them on an equal stand with people who are “street smart”. I have to admit that experience does count for something and it’s good to be skilled in all sorts of trades but the idea that she managed a team of people while doing product development and innovation seems a bit far-fetched…

Good points of the movie: the idea that you have to stand up for yourself and not let other people walk all over you. Assert your qualities and fight for what you are due. Vanessa & Jen have great chemistry and the supporting cast is great.

Bad points: The plot is not very coherent and goes off in different directions:

  • She refuses to have a child with her partner but does not tell him why
  • She breaks it off with her partner due to career plans now that she has a better paid job?? No man in their right mind would say no to that
  • You find out her main competition at the new workplace is the daughter she gave away when she was 17
  • You find out she was hired not for her skills but as a way for the adoptive father to show his young daughter who her biological mom was… Ummm, a coffee date would have worked too?
  • You can’t fake credentials to major institutions and definitely not fake speaking Mandarin!
  • This is on a personal level – I could not help but stare at JLo’s shoulders. They are so freaking muscular she looks like a body-builder. And her dress-style only emphasized the strong neck and arms! Her clothing throughout the movie varies from ethnic skirts to business attire and I have to give props where they’re due. But she shouldn’t wear unflattering clothes that only accentuate the bad bits in her figure (PS: Amy Schumer (which I don’t like to begin with) had really nice fitting clothes in “Pretty” or whatever that crap movie was

The Aquaman Movie was good but not great

Spent some lovely time at the cinema this weekend. Armed with popcorn and a massive coke and having gone to the loo prior to entering the 2h and 20min movie, I was settled to see an action-packed adventure movie. And I was not disappointed! Tidal waves, underwater cities, plots to take over the throne by a brother, unworthy kings finds himself worthy due to power of humility, a massive kraken! I loved these parts of the movie!

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Oscars 2018 Movie List

Every year I do my best to watch every movie in the list nominated and create my own top 10 of who’s going to win. I fell in love with two movies this year. One was Guillermo del Toro’s “The Shape of Water” and the second was “Three Billboards outside Ebbing, Missouri”.

I was pretty off last year but I hope I’ll do better this one around!

Nearly finished my 2017 Oscar List. How far have you guys come?

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Why Atomic Blonde was not the Bomb

I wanted to see a chick John Wick and I was sooo disappointed! Charlize Theron does a mediocre accent in whatever language she is speaking in (German and British English too)!

Atomic Blonde (2017)
Charlize Theron
The movie is not the, “Hyper Retro 80’s Stylized Jane Wick” that the advertisement pitches. That’s about 10% of the movie.
That part was fun. The rest of it is a sloppy borderline incoherent storyline that tries to be clever with plot twist, even if it’s nonsense and predictable. It has a forced romance that you don’t feel. Boring one dimensional characters. It’s style over substance, with not much style. It confuses playing 20 different remixes of, “99 Red Luftballoons” as clever. Even if it doesn’t flow with the context with the scene. It just fits the vibe of the colour palette they shot with. (That’s, “The Style” that the movie is getting praised for. It’s all shot with darker blues and greens with bright greens and pinks as accent colours.) Continue reading “Why Atomic Blonde was not the Bomb”